What Are Emotional Gifts And Why Are They Useful?
Here is a short story that illustrates the importance of emotional gifts. Imagine that a mother or father comes home after a day of work and appears with a gift for the little one. Let’s say, a small car, a doll, a drawing …
Faced with the joy expressed by the child, Mom or Dad decides the next day to do the same. These parents, seeing that their offspring are very happy each time they receive a gift, then appear almost daily with some gifts for their child. What can happen in the medium and long term?
It may be that the child gets used to it and stops valuing the gifts, that what was previously a surprise becomes a habit. The child can then get angry the day the father or mother appears without a gift… Do you think this makes sense? Can you handle an expense rate like this?
The negativity of constant giving
The educator Andrés París confirms how beautiful it can be to appreciate the smile, the surprise, the gratitude and the illusion on the face of the child when he receives a gift which, on the other hand, should not be very Dear. However, today we are living a reality in which material details prevail.
In many cases, this attitude serves to compensate for the lack of detail in other shots. What happens in this type of situation? According to this teacher, the child ends up losing all interest in the face of the slightest surprise.
That’s why he recommends the emotional gift. Why ? Because the child constantly receives gifts … For birthdays, communions, the three wise men and Christmas, when he loses a tooth, when he achieves a feat, when he goes on a trip with his family or with classmates …
There are countless opportunities to receive gifts. That’s why they stop valuing them. The little ones get used to receiving it constantly and this is becoming the norm. The true value of a toy is lost and a competitive and absurd spiral appears which determines the best material gift.
Emotional gifts
So what are emotional gifts? According to the theory of Andrés París, it is these details which are not physical, but which have the capacity to last in the memory and the consciousness of the person who gives them and of the person who receives them.
These gifts trigger pleasant feelings of affection, tenderness, love, etc. In this sense, if you want to offer more emotional gifts to your children, the educator recommends opting for the following:
- Quality time. Oddly enough, this is one of the most difficult gifts to give to children. Today, we live at full speed, almost always stressed, seeking to optimize our productivity.
- What about the time to spend with the family? The time you spend together enjoying, learning from each other and getting to know each other will be an unforgettable gift for everyone.
- A smile. Sometimes it is enough to look at the child and smile. According to París, it is a fantastic and contagious gift, since the little one also loves when he laughs.
- A hug. A hug is another beautiful and heartfelt emotional gift. As Andrés París himself says poetically, it is a union of hearts that allows you to show your little ones that you will always be there to protect, love and keep them safe.
- Written notes. It is a habit that is lost in a way. A little note written in a place where the child can easily find it is a wonderful gift that will surely fill them with joy.
- Applause. Children need to know that they are valued. Applause is also a great emotional gift.
If you really want to enjoy a child’s genuine smile, remember that emotional giving is a wonderful option for ensuring the well-being of children. A hug or a caress does more good than a material gift. Let’s keep this in mind.
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