Giving A Lot And Receiving A Little Is Tiring
Sometimes we have the feeling that we are giving a lot but not receiving anything in return. This often happens when we are sad because we do not get any rewards and we end up thinking that the world is not worth our dedication.
If this happens to you, your best bet is to give up your job and relegate those self-imposed obligations, as this exchange is toxic to you and destroying your health.
How do I know if I am giving too much of myself?
If you are tired, sadness, disillusionment or disappointment come over you, and if you feel that what you are doing for others is a burden when it shouldn’t be, then something is wrong.
Some people literally absorb our energy.
They may not realize it, which is why it is important and necessary to be courageous and to clarify these issues.
They may also have understood what is going on but want to maintain this situation.
Your best bet is to test that interest by stopping trying to meet their needs and seeing what happens.
A selfish attitude shows up right away, so just looking in the right direction is enough.
Do you love yourself enough to do justice when you receive the minimum?
There is no point in fighting thick and thin for someone who doesn’t even lift a finger for you. There is no point constantly helping someone do a job they don’t want to do. Giving without receiving does not do us good.
We cannot forget ourselves to devote ourselves to others. The only gratitude we cannot live without is that towards ourselves, because it is the pillar of self-esteem and the glue of our personal evolution.
Give to feel good
When we help someone, we are giving them a very important part of who we are. This teaches us to appreciate ourselves, which is why it is essential to take care of this part of our life.
Obviously, we are not going to give or thank someone who takes advantage of us. We would feel like a fool, and that would be dangerous for our self-esteem and well-being.
On the other hand, we say that we can never thank enough people who do not abandon us in bad times.
That is why, it is very important to have kind words, good feelings, good deeds and good thoughts towards the people who have helped us at one time, as this will help us to remember the values of kindness and of generosity to others.
The power of reciprocity and gratitude
In fact, there are many ways to be grateful to others. What is certain is that gratitude always translates into giving or thanking for something we have received.
Healthy reciprocity is that which is based on an exchange responding to gratitude.
To say thank you or to express any other gesture of thanks is to recognize that the person in front of us did something that made us happy.
Thank you is an important pillar for our well-being and our health. Its absence hurts us, frustrates us and creates a spiral of regrets and complaints that will make us sad and disappointed.
