Very Few People Find Company In Themselves
Each of the words in this composition contains tremendous force. The truth is, we keep the false belief that not having a mate in life is terrifying. Few things inspire us with so much sadness and compassion than seeing a person “alone”.
In fact, it seems that from early childhood we find it shocking, but the point is that children know how to appreciate those moments when they are only company, themselves.
There are people who do not know, who do not want or who do not know the possibility of not having a partner or to move forward in life alone, and that is why they are so afraid in front of people who prefer to go it alone. Indeed, the need and the fear of being alone is felt, it is palpable.
These people do not understand that companionship teaches us to discern what we want and what we don’t want in life, as well as how to respect and defend it.
Love thus happens in an extremely different way from that which happens when one does not cultivate oneself, because it appears in a way as strong as self-love.
Thus, people who love out of necessity enslave themselves by forcing themselves to maintain relationships that are intoxicated from the start.
Unfortunately, this need is abundant, and it is a virus that threatens us all the time, creating absolutely deadly addictions for self-esteem.
This is why finding companionship within yourself is such a wonderful treasure. It is not about thinking that we are self-sufficient in all aspects, because while we only need ourselves to breathe, the socio-emotional aspect is really important in keeping us sane.
On the other hand, we can say that we need nobody, but that we prefer certain companies which are in harmony with ourselves, even if some people do not understand it.
This question of emotional independence can be summed up in a simple sentence such as: “it is better that she needs you because she loves you than that she loves you because she needs you”.
The solitude chosen is exceptional because it helps you to know yourself, to value yourself and to have confidence in yourself as a bubble of protection.
You don’t have to have a partner to choose loneliness, you can have a fulfilling relationship life, but need to set aside a few minutes a day or a week for yourself.
In short, it’s about enjoying intimate moments more than loneliness, and it’s not just a possibility, because everyone is really welcome to do so.
Frequently, we mistakenly think that chosen loneliness and forced loneliness are the same, even though we easily identify the harshness of forced loneliness.
Forced loneliness, in which you miss someone and feel isolated in the face of your pain, is an evil that humans suffer from.
Also, when we are submerged in this type of loneliness, we deceive ourselves by feigning indifference, thinking that it will protect us and hide our desolation, but with indifference we only succeed in destroying our love.
However, this does not happen when loneliness is chosen because we need it to advise us and it helps us find that part of ourselves that we have lost.
Being with yourself and enjoying these moments of personal intimacy helps us to think and train our mind.
We spend half of our life pretending to be and making others happy, creating a constant obligation for ourselves to accomplish what others demand without thinking about our inner world.
Chosen solitude or self-reliance is the closest experience to freedom, which we can experience by enjoying or removing the burden of our obligations even for just a few hours.
Without a doubt, despite what society thinks, accompanying ourselves is something extremely desirable and, of course, the only way to achieve our inner balance.
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