How Does Love End?

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We all know what love is, the stages it goes through, and what needs to be done to keep it alive. But… What happens when love disappears  ?

People fall in love but may also, one day, no longer love each other.  And now comes the big question: How can we make sure that love does not disappear?

We will find out in this article!

Physical and mental attraction

When we fall in love with someone, we feel drawn to that person.

So why do we all of a sudden stop feeling this pull? Why did we “get tired” of our spouse?

Attraction is one of the first phases of creating the feeling of love that wears off over time.

With him go the nervousness when he / she called you, when he / she invited you to go out, when you wanted to give him a present… Where did she go?

Our bodies have changed. We are no longer the same. The habit begins to take effect.

The power of habit

Boredom and monotony bring no good. Before, everything was new and now everything is repeating itself. So where is what surprised us? The projects for two disappear, there is no more spontaneity …

The fruit of habit is the lack of physical contact.  We begin to suppress our expressions of affection in public and the tender words have disappeared from our vocabulary.

A routine has been set up and this “accommodates” us, but over time, this routine has consequences.

We start to miss our spouse, and see flaws in him / her that we didn’t notice before.

Destructive criticism

Why was he or she perfect at the start and not perfect anymore? Why do faults appear suddenly? Were we blind?

The exaltation of qualities is another phase of love. We magnify them and over time, when we finally see them as they are, we don’t like them as much.

We start to tire of these behaviors that we tolerate and we no longer hesitate to tell our spouse everything we think, no matter if we upset him.

Before, we had more empathy, we were more understanding… Suddenly, we turn into a slave to complaints, annoyance and therefore arguments.

Lack of communication

The key to any relationship is communication. She can never be missing in a relationship or it is lost.

It is necessary to interact with our partner, to speak and not to argue, to exchange desires, emotions, to see confidence in each other as before.

All of this is lost when the attraction disappears and the flaws show themselves. We no longer see our spouse but sometimes a total stranger.

The fine line of tenderness

“I don’t love her anymore but I have tenderness for her / him”. You certainly know this phrase.

Everything that we have seen above leads to this point. And it is here that we fully realize the line that separates love from affection.

Despite the disenchantment, we still feel affection for this person with whom we have shared part of our life.

There have been good times and bad times, and we have all lived them. It was something important that we do not see as negative. But… love is no more.

As we mentioned above, the force of habit and the passage of years cause disenchantment, lack of communication… all of this turns love into simple affection.

And now comes the big question: how can we avoid losing love ?

Not all couples succeed in preserving their love over time, which is why we say that love has an expiry date.

Perhaps it is the affinity, the type of personality that the two people have that influences the duration of their love.

Humor, a positive attitude, doing things together, having fun… It all helps, but things always depend on how we are and how we feel.

Does all love end up turning into simple affection? Do you think you can avoid falling out of love? Leave us your comments !

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