Christmas With The Family: 7 Guidelines To Enjoy

Guidelines for enjoying Christmas with the family

Nevertheless, and in the words of Charles Dickens, ” I ‘ Hon Christmas orerai in my heart and I will try to keep throughout the year”. In other words, it doesn’t seem like a good idea to go to extremes on these celebratory days, neither from a negative standpoint, nor going overboard in wanting to be happier and more empathetic just for 20 days. And later… what?

The point is,  we can find various reasons not to enjoy a family Christmas. Either because of quarrels with other family members, or because a loved one is not there, or simply because these are dates that may not be pleasing to us. However, there are options to endure them, and even to take advantage of them. At least this is what psychologist Graci Molines considers, as we will see later.

Wish it was so

The first key is to want to have fun. As much as it may be dates we don’t like, or there are issues in the family, it is still a good opportunity to enjoy, bond, and move on. good time. Therefore, it is fundamental to be willing to make these dates something positive.

Distinguish the important from the superfluous

If we are as a family and want to discuss as little as possible, we will undoubtedly succeed . On the other hand, if we try to be receptive, and not to comment or take everything at face value, not only will we offer ourselves the opportunity to benefit from it but we will also make sure that others can benefit. of a pleasant moment. The people we love are always a good reason not to try to quarrel with us on these dates when feelings predominate precisely for those who live them and await them with pleasure.

Focuses on the positive

Christmas is a great time to focus on the positive , not the other way around. Therefore, if family gatherings seem boring, let’s try to focus on what we love most about them. Surely there is someone we particularly appreciate, fun times and endearing moments that we can enjoy.

Improve our mood

Let’s put aside the straight face and  go to Christmas family gatherings with the desire to bring something positive, to contribute, to influence. In doing so, not only will we make others happy, but it will be more difficult not to be able to take something positive out of this holiday that is partly what we want.

Find the empathy that is in us

Once again… the eternal empathy,  still  necessary. In this case, during a family Christmas, it is about something basic. If we are able to understand the motives of others, and even put ourselves in their shoes, this time of year will certainly be much more bearable for us and, who knows, we may even enjoy it. Indeed, in a way, if we manage to connect with the feelings of those who enjoy Christmas, it will be easier for us to do the same.

Respect others

Very similar to the previous point. In this case, let us remember that each person is a world and has his own way of seeing life. Therefore, although it can sometimes be difficult, it  is necessary to respect others. Let’s listen to their views and, even if we don’t share them, let’s be respectful of their ideas.

Do not engage in difficult topics

Finally, the psychologist cited in the introduction offers us a very important guideline. At a family reunion, where everyone knows each other well, we know that there  are topics that can cause discomfort. Therefore, especially at Christmas, what do we gain by venturing into these areas? This is certainly not the time to inconvenience anyone.

Christmas with the family doesn’t have to be a difficult time for anyone. Either way, let’s implement these guidelines to enjoy them with the people we care about. In fact, these keys will not only help us face these times of the year but will be useful for any social gathering. Let’s take advantage of it!