Dare To Take Out Of Your Life The People Who Make Your Smile Disappear
Just do it. Install in your mind this wastebasket where you can put, with one click , everything that does not suit you, even people who dare to erase your smile. After viewing this image, realize the relief it can offer you. Now, gather your self-esteem and a few drops of courage to see it through.
We know it is not easy. Even though we live in this age where a lot of relationships end with the famous button “kill my friends” on social networks, in real life much deeper and more delicate processes are carried out, and we do not can not always react as when cleaning your Facebook profile.
“The world is not in danger because of bad people, but because of those who allow wickedness.”
-Albert Einstein-
What is more complicated is that many of us share the same vital frames with certain people who, without being harmful (or “bad people as we might say), end up wearing us down anyway. They do this because their emotional charge is suffocating and exhausting. Because the virus of bad humor, negativity or defeatism end up grabbing us to completely erase our positive “aura”. The one we have so much trouble maintaining.
It is not easy to break some ties overnight. Family, work colleagues… These are people who are anchored in our present because they are part of a daily dynamic. However, we can stop the impact of their behavior and personality on us.
For that, nothing like ordering a soft “erase”. Rather than eliminating them, it’s more about mitigating some of their strength and impact on our reality.
The “bad apples” of our close surroundings
Tony Swchartz is a well-known journalist and speaker who rose to fame for writing a bestselling book for Donald Trump on the ideal of triumph. Trump, The Art of Negotiation was marketed as a biography of a successful businessman who is now President of the United States.
This book is more than 30 years old but without realizing it, the author’s pages have helped to create a myth that he regrets today. Schwartz currently runs a company called “The Energy Project” which advises organizations on how to create respectful, harmonious work environments so that human capital can deliver the best of itself.
As he explains to us in his work, in most professional environments there is what is called “the bad apple”. People who, with their attitude, gradually erode the dynamism and productivity of an entire structure. They highlight worries, they extinguish motivation, they stoke tensions and sow anxiety among colleagues. In a subtle but persistent way.
On the other hand, United States tycoon Donald Trump asserted with a solemn smile that only a person with leadership and negotiating skills was entitled to take the presidency. For his part, Tony Swchartz, regretting his book, started a campaign to remind people how we create the most productive and respectful executives.
While having a “bad apple” as a co-worker is already very frustrating and dangerous, having a leader who possesses these characteristics can be deadly.
Don’t let anyone put out your smile
Friends are there to make life more joyful, to fill our daily life with meaning and stable grounding. If they resort to abuse, they are not friends. The family is there to help us grow, to allow us to connect with society in a safe way while feeling loved. If it does just the opposite, this family is not a real family.
“Never stop smiling because that day will be a lost day.”
-Charles Chaplin-
For their part, co-workers, management and human resources must make the best of us in order to be able to navigate towards a single goal: to triumph as an organization. If this does not happen, then the work done is less good.
These settings or atmospheres extinguish our smiles, in different ways and at different times in our lives. Because this universal gesture is nothing other than the reflection of an inner well-being where personal security, the feeling of competition and the fact of being loved, respected and valued is present.
John. E. Steinbeck said that sadness that settles in the soul can kill us faster than bacteria. Losing your smile is the first symptom. A bad father / mother, a false friend, a bad boss, an abhorrent leader not only alter our joys and our motivation, but also change our emotional charge. .
We have to visualize this interaction as a virus. Like those bad apples we spoke of earlier which, when they arrive, display their ill-being by infecting us all with their bad humor, their stupidity, their lack of tact. We must therefore assume that the world is full of similar typologies with more or less harmful load.
We have to stand up for ourselves, it is necessary to understand that the people who hurt you don’t like you, that the people who hurt you don’t respect you. Putting limits and distances is essential. But, it’s even better to find the antidote: surround yourself with worthy people. Spend as much time as possible with these special people who bring us light, inspiration, courage, and genuine love that heals all.
For this is where the relief from all ailments is.
Images by Kiyo Murakami, Vladimir Kush
