I’m Writing Because I Have No Other Way To Kiss You
I write because I miss you, because you are gone and I only have your farewell message, because I don’t know if one day you loved me, because I need the words on a paper to me say how I feel.
I am writing because, right now, I have no other way to kiss you.
Writing about what we think, just like talking about how we feel, helps us think about many circumstances that hurt us and heal ourselves. One of those circumstances that brings forth so much joy and sorrow is love.
They say it takes between six months and a year to get over a breakup, but there are people who are really hard to forget.
But in reality, during these cases, we should use our emotional weapons to overcome sadness and one of those weapons is writing.
Writing as a way to heal scars
As Walter Riso says in his “Practical guide for not suffering from love”: “All disenchantment is not bad and all love is not lasting”.
It is obvious because sometimes, the disenchantment is liberating. The uncertainty of whether someone loves us or not is no worse than the certainty of falling out of love.
As we grow up and become adults we learn what we want and what we don’t want with love, but a breakup is a breakup and even though we know how to deal with it and accept it, it still leaves invisible scars.
In this case, now is the time to use your emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence, a concept that was born with Daniel Goleman in the 90s, is our ability to identify, understand, express and regulate our emotions and those of others in an efficient and productive way.
One of the ways to achieve this understanding and identification is through writing. Write by hand, letting it move and use words to describe each of our feelings.
Knowing that no one is going to judge us and let our subconscious do its work, can help us in the business of scar healing.
Written words that heal physical wounds
In the journal, “Psychosomatic Medicine”, a study was carried out by psychologist Elisabeth Broadbent, titled “Expressive writing and wound healing in the elderly”.
She claims that the writing works as a healing of sad events or deep feelings of the person.
The experiment was performed on 49 participants between 64 and 97 years old, who underwent a biopsy, which left a wound on their arm.
They were asked to write twenty minutes a day and photograph their injury every 4 or 5 days until they were healed.
Half of the participants recounted their traumatic experiences and emotions and the other half wrote about their schedule for the day without mentioning any feelings.
After 11 days, 76.2% of participants in the first group had their injury healed while only 42.1% in the second group.
The reason for this result is, according to the report, that “stress and depression are linked to slower healing from injuries”. (…) “Until now, we had only sought to reduce stress in the elderly with physical exercises” (…) “A feasible alternative may be expressive writing, which is fast, easy to perform and inexpensive ”.
When it comes to love, there is an invisible wound that twists our hearts but can also be relieved with writing.
This is why it is recommended to let ourselves be carried away, to write without thinking and to allow the words to flow from our brain to the paper, to free us little by little from our pain.
I write because I can’t kiss you
I am writing to tell you that I love you and that I will always remember you. I am writing to kiss you because I can no longer approach your lips, I am writing because there are still two plates and two glasses on my table and your smell still permeates my sheets.
I write because with each word, I drop a tear that dilutes the ink, but also your memory.
Kissing you is just an illusion, something I will remember and wear down over time. Writing letters one after the other protects me and opens the way to the future.
Writing is like giving a big sigh of words and letting a pencil squeeze them out on a piece of paper that won’t stay white.
