Parents Are There To Help Their Children

Parents have an important job in life, that of helping their children. It’s something they don’t think about when their children are born. They don’t know the workload that awaits them.

It is not only a question of taking care of them, of feeding them, of making them happy… Parents must be there to support them, to make them little people who know how to face the world as hard as the one in which we live.

A world that will put them in the face of difficulties, a world that will reject them when they struggle to get up.

But what are we doing wrong with them? Because, even if you have trouble recognizing it, when we educate our children, we achieve an infinite number of things that we think are good but are not. Discover them here!

Parents must be present

Our main commitment as parents is to be there for our children, unconditionally, with a love that surpasses everything.

Put yourself in your child’s shoes because you have been in his or her shoes. How was your childhood? Did you have good parents? Did you miss something?

Don’t make the same mistakes that hurt you. Now is the time to find out why you are parenting today:

• Parents are there to give their children the right to live: because many children are born into families where the parents betray each other or are violent among themselves.
  Your child must know that he has the right to have, to live, and to be able.

• Parents are there to transmit ideals to their children: they must inspire them so that, when they become adults, they know what to expect, where to go, who they are.
  Use phrases like “I know you are going to accomplish great things”, “I expect great things from you”.
• Parents are there to give life lessons to children: Sometimes we put pressure on them with a multitude of extra-curricular activities when they have to enjoy, they have to live!
• Parents are there to bring unconditional love to their children : a love that cannot be shared with anyone else, a love that transcends any physical barrier, any mental barrier.
  Whatever they do, your love for them must not change.

Now that you know why you’re a parent, it’s time to put everything you’ve learned into practice, but there is something more important you need to know, something that we very rarely put into practice …

Stop emphasizing the negative

It is very difficult to see it as parents, that is why we are going to put ourselves in the position of the child.

Do you remember the amount of punishment you received? Have you ever heard the famous phrase: “don’t behave like a child”?

During our child, we suffered from punishments and arguments. Often, they came from our childish behavior.

But… weren’t we children? When can we then behave as such? When we are grown up?

Since we were little, we have been taught to be bigger, and we are not given the opportunity to enjoy like children! You always have to behave well, learn to be taller. But… is that the way?

We believe that with these instructions we are doing it right, but this is not true. Instead of motivating, we demotivate, we hurt our children.

They feel bad with themselves and with us because they don’t know how they should behave.

They are children. They are learning and we ourselves continue to learn, whether we are 20, 30, 40, etc. What can we expect from them?

Give them permission to live, to behave like children, give them permission to make mistakes because you too are making mistakes and making mistakes.

Most importantly, stop focusing on everything they are doing wrong and start pointing fingers at what they are doing right.

For example, instead of pointing out that they misplaced their paints or painted on the table, just teach them so that next time they can use a table cover or something. that protects their furniture.

They don’t know what could have happened and even if you tell them, they forget! But don’t stress the negative, redirect them to positive teaching. 

What mistakes have you made with your children? The most important thing and what you need to remember is that you must always be there for them, that you must emphasize the positive and stop repeating the negative.

Are you ready to be good parents?