The Past Has No Power To Taint Your Present

The past does not exist in reality, it only exists in our mind, in our memory.

If we remember it consciously, it will affect our emotions, positively or negatively.

But it will affect them in one way or another, depending on how we value it, how we value it, or what it means to us.

How many times have we thought that the way we feel today is the fault of the past?

This lack of emotional responsibility is treacherous because it prevents us from taking the reins of our present and keeps us in a reality that no longer exists and that unfortunately we cannot change.

Changing the lens: accepting the past

Everyone chooses and decides if he wants to be unhappy all his life or if he prefers, on the contrary, to take advantage of the time that remains to him to enjoy life.

It is nothing more than a personal choice that we make in the present, which has nothing to do with what has affected us in the past.

Has it not occurred to you that each person has a totally different view of reality?

We can easily see people who have been through serious or sad things, but who have chosen to enjoy life and the present.

However, in the same situation, other people decide to remain in the position of victim all their lives, isolate themselves, get angry at their bad luck, and cannot focus on anything else that is not their past.

The difference between these people is, of course, the prism with which they observe what happened to them.

The former have accepted this past, but they have not been influenced by it in their present, while the latter do not accept what has happened to them, continue to revel in it, and miss out on many things of life.

If you read this you are alive

If you think you are one of those people who blame their ill-being on their past, whether it is because of the education you have received, the mistreatment, abuse, rape or traumatic accidents, you must realize that you came out of it and that today you are alive.

It is true that you have been faced with bad luck and it would have been much better if it had not all happened, but it is so and you have no possibility to change it.

So, your complaints, your crying or your anger are unproductive, stop using them!

Focus on the present, you are alive enough to go out on the streets, meet people, dance, have an interesting conversation, take care of a pet, write a book … and to do all the wonderful things in life reserve for you.

They are there, they are waiting for you, you just have to accept your past, take it in your arms and tell it: it’s over, I say goodbye, I will take advantage of my new friend the present!

Guilt is no use

We regularly strive to find the culprits for what has happened in our life.

We blame ourselves, we blame others, our parents, our culture… but think about it: what’s the point?

Don’t you believe that when things have no solution or are no longer under our control, it is better to let them unfold?

This need to find the culprits only wastes our time.

We are turning the past all over the place and we don’t have time to take the reins of the present.

Stop blaming others, it’s neither important nor functional.

What is really important is to change your chip, to thank the life, which made you stronger thanks to your past.

From now on, you decide to enjoy your present as it deserves and not to waste another minute in your past. Will you dare?